Here are some bosses' behaviors that made me tick as well as some of my peers:
- Do what I say, not what I do.
- I listen to you, well no...
- I am not micro managing you, I am controlling your job.
- How could you make a mistake like this? oh, I forgot to tell you. Bad for you!
- Barbara, Let Robert take care of the printer... (doesn't sound sexist to you?)
- Your paycheck / extra hours from last month? I forgot about it.
- This is a very boring task. Do it while I have fun with the interesting ones.
- Do you have a problem? Let's talk about it...later
- Last time you mentioned X and I decided to help you deal with it.
- You don't have a problem. We have a problem and we will solve it.
- If you made a mistake it is because I did not explain well.
- Feel free to ask me questions.
- Your goal are X, Y, Z. Now go for it!
How could anyone refuse to work with a leader like this?
A question that many employees have when working with a boss is: "How can I handle this situation?". Some bosses can change into leaders but it seems difficult for employees to participate to this transformation. Unfortunately, employees faced with toxic bosses may have no other choice than survive with them. We are told to go away from toxic people but with the job market crisis in Europe, or the office politics, it can be just too dangerous to leave your job or talk about it. Here are few ways to deal with a bossy boss:
- Confront your boss.
- Find an interlocutor in the organization.
- Understand his process.
- Acknowledge the toxicity of the boss.
- Use your sense of "humor".
- Look for institutions that could help you defend yourself.
- Look for another job.
- Talk about it with someone external.
- Learn meditation or practice sport.